What counts as cheating is constantly discussed amongst the sexes, and people aren’t quite in agreement over whether this newly common occurrence counts.
The way people interact now has changed significantly over the last few years, so the way relationships work has also shifted.
With these shifts come new challenges and questions, and there is one new phenomena that has recently popped up in the last few years that has sparked quite a debate on whether it counts as cheating.
I’m talking about Onlyfans.
Now… the debate isn’t asking whether it would be cheating if your partner had a profile, and was selling nude pictures to people online, but rather how the platform fits into a relationship.

Some people said this would be an absolute dealbreaker for them (Getty Stock Image)
Australian news site News.com.au asked a bunch of Australians their thoughts, and they got some rather interesting and contrasting answers.
1,870 people were asked if they think their partners subscribing to OnlyFans counts as cheating.
Similar debates have likely popped up in relationships of the past, with some likely remarking that watching pornography at all counted. Going further back, there were probably plenty of arguments over whether a Playboy magazine counted as cheating as well.
But here we are in modern times, and people still can’t seem to agree.
According to the results, 56 per cent of women believe that if a partner has subscribed to a porn star’s channel, it is ‘definitely cheating’.
However, only 38 per cent of men agree, with 48 per cent of men stating it depends on the type of interactions involved, compared to 36 per cent of women.
Only 9 per cent of women, and 15 per cent of men, thought it was ‘normal’ for those in relationships to interact with OnlyFans stars and watch their content.

What counts as cheating regularly comes up in relationships (Getty Stock Image)
The fact that subscribers can send messages (and certainly NSFW messages) to OnlyFans performers puts a new spin on the debate.
“If you’re paying for something, interacting and have a particular person of interest, that’s definitely cheating,” one woman said, with her friend agreeing and saying how much money was being spent also played into it.
One guy also described it as a ‘dog act’ and said it would clearly be crossing a line.
He added: “If I was with someone for say five years, I’d be like, ‘what’s going on here?’
“That would be a big fight. Whereas with someone new? Bye.”
However, two other men said that they didn’t consider it the same as having a ‘traditional’ affair.
Would this be a dealbreaker for you and immediate grounds for breaking up or is context needed for a good decision OR is it all perfectly fine and wouldn’t phase you?
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Topics: Australia, Sex and Relationships, OnlyFans

OnlyFans star Nova Hawthorne has opened up about an increasingly popular fantasy request she’s receiving and why it’s ‘exhilarating’ for so many.
There’s a lot of money in the world of OnlyFans, particularly when it comes to fulfilling specific kinks, with one creator making a whopping six figures a month from doing so.
And there’s one ‘taboo’ request which OnlyFans creator Nova Hawthorne has seen being asked for more and more frequently.
The fantasy
The 29-year-old content creator told News.com.au that she’s seen a steady increase in the popularity of the ‘affair’ fantasy.
Hawthorne theorizes the increase in popularity of such a fantasy is due to the ‘thrill of secrecy and taboo nature of an affair’ which ‘can really heighten someone’s sense of arousal and pleasure,’ the idea of meeting a new partner being more ‘deeply passionate and intensely exciting’.
However, even those in relationships can have the desire to act out an ‘affair’ fantasy.
And the ‘affair’ fantasy certainly doesn’t mean you actually have to cheat on your partner – it is a ‘fantasy’ after all.

Nova Hawthorne has seen a rise in requests for the ‘affair’ fantasy. (Getty Stock Images/ Peter Cade)
Words of advice
Hawthorne advises to have a ‘conversation with your partner’ if an affair fantasy is something you want to explore.
After checking they’re ‘on board,’ she suggests ‘role-playing’ as a ‘fun way to tap into a cheating fantasy without compromising your relationship’.
Sadly, some partners don’t go to their other halves to have an honest conversation and try and act out the fantasy without cheating, but do ultimately go to Hawthorne instead, with ‘cheating and homewrecker role-plays’ her ‘number one more requested show’.

Hawthorne shares advise on how to act out the fantasy in a healthy and safe way. (Instagram/@nova_hawthorne)
The request is not uncommon
The OnlyFans creator reveals: “I have had a member repeatedly video call me from his bed. He turned the phone around to reveal his girlfriend sleeping next to him.
“This is not uncommon. I’m often requested to use their wife’s names in the roleplay.”
However, she also gets requests for a ‘homewrecker’ fantasy rather than simply an ‘affair’ scenario.
Hawthorne explains the ‘homewrecker’ sees ‘men requesting she seduces them to make them cheat on their wives’ trying to make her more the ‘bad person’.
And she thinks that ‘many’ of her clients ‘would’ ultimately ‘act upon their secret online desire’.

The request isn’t at all uncommon amongst OnlyFans subscribers. (Nikolas Kokovlis/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
“Not all but enough,” she notes. Why?
Well, Hawthorne believes people who seek out affairs in whatever sense are typically seeking ’emotional validation, self-discovery or human connection’.
Fellow OnlyFans star Bonnie Blue controversially voiced she believes those who seek out cheating fantasies are doing so because they’re not being ‘pleasured’ properly by their partners, resolving she doesn’t ‘blame the husband’ but the ‘wife’.
So, what do you think?
Featured Image Credit: Instagram/@nova_hawthorne / TikTok/@novahawthorne
Topics: Australia, OnlyFans, Sex and Relationships

An Australian sex worker has opened up about the top five reasons she believes married men pay her for sex.
When OnlyFans content creator, adult film star and escort Bonnie Blue isn’t sleeping with ‘122 students’ in ’21 days,’ she also earns money from a clientele of married men.
The 24-year-old, who lives on the Gold Coast in Australia, has since revealed the top reasons married men come to her to pay for sex and why she doesn’t ultimately ‘blame’ the men, but their wives.
After moving from the UK to Australia with her husband, Bonnie decided to quit her role as the ‘innocent wife,’ end her relationship and launch a new career in the adult industry.
She hit headlines for sleeping with over 100 students and was forced to defend herself over the Spring Break stunt.
And Bonnie has since spoken out about another type of clientele she works with – married men – revealing the top five reasons she believes they cheat on their partners with her.

Bonnie Blue has opened up about why she thinks married men cheat with her (Instagram/ @bonnie_blue_xox)
They want a distraction
Bonnie told News.com.au one reason she believes married men pay her for sex is because they ‘just want a distraction from the stresses of daily life’.
“Seeing me is a stress release, and then they can go back to their families and be a better husband and dad,” she said.
Boredom
Another reason is married men ‘might simply be bored of sleeping with the same person for so long and they want some excitement’.
It’s a fantasy
A third reason ‘is that sleeping with a porn star is honestly such a fantasy for so many people’. “So sleeping with me can bring that dream to life,” she continued.

Bonnie says there are five main reasons married men pay her for sex (Instagram/ @bonnie_blue_xox)
Attraction
Bonnie explained another reason is ‘that [she’s] hotter than their wife’.
“It’s that simple,” she continued.
But the ‘major reason’?
Sexless marriages
Well, she revealed: “[It’s] is that their wives are not pleasuring their husbands the way they want to be pleasured.”
Bonnie explained some men who come to her ‘open up about their marriage’ and the ‘most common issues’ she hears about are ‘the lack of sex with their partner’ whether it be ‘not making time for one another’ or ‘not communicating and not reaching one another’s needs’.
Bonnie resolved: “I don’t blame husbands for booking an escort at all. I blame the wife.
“More women should learn how to pleasure their men, moan a little less and maybe I wouldn’t have so many visits from their husband.”
So, what do you think?
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Topics: Australia, Money, OnlyFans, Sex and Relationships

In terms of places to have sex and get down and dirty, an MRI scanner doesn’t usually top the list.
I mean, great if that’s what gets you going but it’s not usually the most romantic of hotspots.
However, in the name of science, groups of volunteers did the deed in an MRI scanner in order to give us a proper scientific look at what happens inside the bodies during sex.

There’s plenty of places to get intimate, and even in an MRI scanner apparently. (Pixabay)
Eight couples were asked to have sex on the bed inside an MRI scanner while researchers stood in a room next door. According to the study: “The participants were asked to lie with pelvises near the marked centre of the tube and not to move during imaging.”
The study, which took place in 1999, produced black and white images that are still popular today according to one doctor. Created for The British Medical Journal (BMJ) in 1999, Dr Tony Delamothe has now discussed the study more than 20 years on.
He explained: “It was hardly the medical equivalent of a moon landing, so why did ‘lay’ visitors come flocking in such numbers?”
He then suggested that the prospect of seeing sex on screen for free was behind its success, as many realised that even though the images were in black and white and very anatomical, they were still technically pictures of sex.

The black and white images also come with a handy key for identifying what body part is where. (The BMJ)
He added: “If that’s the explanation, it’s hard to think ourselves back to such an innocent age, given today’s explicit online offerings. But it is still making people smile (and laugh), much to the annoyance of author and participant Professor Ida Sabelis. She despairs that friends, family, and even colleagues at VU University in Amsterdam – one of the world’s most progressive cities – still find the study amusing.
“Why that’s the case, 20 years after the article’s original publication, is worth a study of its own.”
The images, if you want to see them, show two spines as well as genitalia and show exactly how the male and female bodies fit together during sex. If you wanted to study it more closely, there’s even a handy key: P=penis, Ur=urethra, Pe=perineum, U=uterus, S=symphysis, B=bladder, I=intestine, L5=lumbar 5, Sc=scrotum.

The images were taken as part of a scientific study over 20 years ago in 1999.(The BMJ)
The photographs, taken during the missionary position, were also useful scientific studies as they showed that the penis isn’t straight during in sex but actually curved to fit the natural curve of the vagina.
Also, scientists had previously thought that the uterus expanded during sex but this was proven that despite female arousal, it doesn’t appear to get any bigger.
Whilst the images remain popular more than two decades later, at the time of the study nobody at The BMJ thought the study was particularly useful clinically or scientifically.
However it’s now gone on to become one of its most downloaded journal articles of all time, and has been quoted in 130 other scientific papers.
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Topics: Science, Sex and Relationships, Health

To the uninitiated, swinging culture may seem deeply mysterious and confusing, and in a certain sense, that is by design.
Swinging – or the act of partner-swapping among multiple people – is oftentimes cloaked in mystery to protect people’s identities and privacy, but sometimes that mystery is simply a part of the fun.
One example of this additional mystery is the use of certain secret codes by swingers to identify one another and what exactly they are looking for.
These are most commonly seen on adult-only cruises that are promoted as ‘swinger cruises’ and invite those who partake in that lifestyle to enjoy themselves at sea. One such example is Temptation Cruise, which has been doing the rounds online.

They decorated the door. (@4ourplay/TikTok)
Among these swinger cruises, one of the most popular is the Temptation Cruise, which hosts couples-only cruises twice a year.
TikTok couple Belle and Jase were two of the attendees this past April, and they shared some parts of their experience to their joint TikTok account, 4ourPlay.com. Their videos gave some fascinating insight into some aspects of the strange world of swinging.
According to Belle, the ‘spicy cruise’ she attended specifically mandates that you wear necklaces with your name on them. It also recommends that you decorate the door of your cabin to your heart’s content.

The upside down pineapple is a key sign. (@4ourplay/TikTok)
As for one of those aforementioned secret codes, you can see upside-down pineapples all over the cruise, including in Belle and Jase’s own decorations. This is because the upside-down pineapple is actually a code for a couple that is open to meeting new couples to have sex with.
The upside-down pineapple is used quite frequently both on swinger cruises and in everyday life, with its use in the latter being a way to tell others that they’re into that lifestyle discreetly.
The pineapple is such a notorious part of swinger culture that Belle even pondered if it related to the consumption of pineapple within the community as well.
“I bet swinger cruises go through way more pineapple than normal ones do, don’t you think?” the TikToker joked.
So, if you ever see an upside-down pineapple around your town, you may be in the presence of swingers–but don’t be a pest about it; they’re keeping it discreet for a reason.